No Negativity Allowed

Why would you accept people in your life that fill the space with a negative vibe? You deserve positivity. I think it is too often now that we sit and complain about certain people’s actions in our life but don’t change them, don’t adjust them and too easily allow them again and again even when we don’t necessarily agree with them. How many of us have accepted a person who ‘mood hoovers’ each time we see them, somebody who takes our time for granted, somebody who doesn’t understand the concept of a ‘two way’ friendship and somebody who fails to be there when times are tough. MANY of us, let’s stop, let’s put us first.

You don’t deserve anyone in your life that doesn’t better you as a person and doesn’t bring a smile to your face when around. Time and life is too precious, spend it with your favourite people. X

10 Simple Things To Remember And Follow

10 things I have learnt to follow on my journey to finding self love (trust me, still working through it) but these are 10 things that are simple and important;

  1. Do not overthink
  2. Focus on one thing at a time (if possible)
  3. Write down your feelings or thoughts (diary, blog, journal)
  4. Speak to people you trust about anything and everything
  5. Listen to music, belting (singing) in the car always a winner
  6. Take naps whenever and wherever you like
  7. Restrict time on social media
  8. Have a bath (use sleepy shower gel, absolute gem)
  9. Read a book (bodyposipanda currently)
  10. BE YOU (the most important one)

Hectic

My view on a relationship (friend or partner)

Should we be waiting hours for a reply? (Should we be bothered we haven’t received a reply?) Should we be checking activity? (Should facebook, snapchat, Instagram allow activity to be shown?) Should we be feeling jealous if they aren’t out with us, if they aren’t on the phone to us? (Should we be feeling insecure in the friend/partner in the first place?)

I think we should give ourselves a little credit though girls (majority of the time,) society makes ‘stalking’ the most accessible thing, no girl can deny the enjoyment or habit. But, let’s think, is it healthy? Is it how we should be spending our seconds/minutes or hours of the day?

A relationship MUST always be a two way deal, each person should want to talk, each person should want to know about what’s going on with the other and each person should be willing to make that time for the other. If any of these are lacking you need to ask yourself, is this my friend/partner, or is this person a ‘time filler?’

After, think, Is this someone who I want to share my life stories with, who I want to spend moments I won’t get back with? Think about it, if you have to ask somebody to make effort for you, if you have to doubt your worth to somebody, if you have to be the person who gets in contact first, who organises drinks each time, are they even worth the time of day?

Don’t allow yourself to feel unwanted, don’t put yourself in a vulnerable position, if somebody makes you feel this way, then say ‘au revoir’ and crack on with your day being the star you are. X

(I would just like to say I haven’t forgot about the blog, I haven’t ‘given up’ on the blog, just sometimes life comes in the way, daily activities take place on the priority list but ultimately this blog I feel keeps me sane and I hope it helps others reading it so it is not something I intend to be finishing any time soon.)

Life is too short (quote)

‘Life is too short to be worrying about things that you can’t change, things/people that don’t want to change. Either adapt to whoever/whatever it is or move on forward and carry on living your amazing wonderful life. Don’t waste a second, appreciate each second.’