Time Out

Mind rushing, thoughts processing, heart rate racing, irrational thoughts slowing rising, bursting emotions happening. Sometimes our minds are just TOO busy, it happens to all of us. When this happens sometimes it can feel there is no escape, there is no ‘time out.’

10 things I attend to do just to have ‘time out’ on those not so quiet days/weeks just to feel numb for a second, to escape for a minute or to purely focus on me for a slight moment:

1. Read a book (no1 every time)

2. Write a blog (even if there is nothing positive to write about)

3. Listen to music (sad or happy but music YOU enjoy)

4. Eat food (comforting as most of us know)

5. Take a shower or bath (use your favourite shower gel, shampoo and conditioner, self indulge)

6. Take a walk (not always my first choice if I am 100% honest BUT it never fails to help a down day)

7. Have a nap (always a good one)

8. Colouring (so many books you can get now for de-stressing give it a go)

9. Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a while (someone who will make you smile)

10. Work (sometimes work seems like the last place we would like to be BUT it can be a great mind distraction and ‘time out’)

Challenges

Life gives us challenges purposely to test us, not to defeat us, not to break us but to show us how capable our body is for fighting them, staying strong and getting through all the challenges that arise only shows us how amazing we can truly be.

Sometimes it can be hard to accept this, to remember this, to even endure it, however, it’s something that must happen to make life easier, it is something we are ALL capable of if we believe in our bodies and mind.

Remember how strong of an individual you are, remember how much your mind and body can take and accept. Believe in yourself, be the strong person you can be and show all the kindness and love that you have to people around you that deserve it. (F*** the others)

Happy

Does ‘happy’ necessarily have to mean you have a full beaming smile on your face? Does ‘happy’ mean you aren’t allowed to feel another emotion apart from one? Does it necessarily mean we will wake up the next morning ‘happy?’

NO. Happy has a different meaning for each person and each persons reasons for being happy are different (the same with all emotions.) However, I think it is important even if you only feel five minutes of happiness per day or only some days out of the week/month that we appreciate these moments, that we take them in, love them and endure them, not take them for granted. There is no need to be disheartened if one happy moment only last seconds or minutes or even months because that’s ok, they’ll always be another one.

We aren’t programmed to be happy 24/7, it is ok to feel ‘ok’ or ‘meh’ on particular days. For me, once I let the pressure gate down having to act happy all the time and not allowing myself to feel other emotions in front of others it got a whole lot easier. I now feel however my body feels everyday and the moments I feel happy I endure, the moments I feel sad I also take in and pick myself back up again with a bit of self care.

Choose options that’ll make your day better, make decisions based on things you know will have a positive effect and don’t compare your version of happiness to others, rock your own. Every single one of us deserves happiness but more of it will come around if you accept YOU, care for YOU and live your own life for YOU.

Reading + Anxiety

Hi guys,

I am here, my evenings have actually become very robotic when it comes to getting to bed. I light my ‘cosy up’ Yankee candle and start reading my present book hidden underneath my quilt whilst my fan is blowing breezily towards me. (= total bliss) My favourite hour of each week often now is walking to my local cafe, ordering a pint of Diet Coke (maybe a cookie) and reading a book for an hour – honestly, try it.

Anyone who suffers with anxiety or even just a mind that doesn’t quite understand how to slow down then I advice to read, I was a book worm when young, then grew out of it once going with my friends was much ‘cooler.’ I now have find the love again. It is an escape, it is time out and it is something I can officially call a hobby. You can read any book you like on anything you like, paperback, kindle or phone. Do it for YOU, have a break for YOU and allow yourself to have YOU time.