Beauty Of Family

No family is perfect, no family doesn’t have drama’s including mine, although, my family, there MY definition of beauty.

Different life’s, different ‘homes, different friends, different personalities, different perceptions on life, different enjoyments and different life experiences, however, the true beauty of family is that we are all ONE.

We are a team, we have the same interest when it comes to one another and we certainly have the same fondness/love of one another. Friends, boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, family will always be apart of you whether you speak or see each other regularly families will almost certainly pull together when needed and work as ONE.

Tears of enjoyment, tears of sadness, tears of anger, family are there, achievements passed, failures happened, family are there. Illness, newborn, hard times, good times, family are there. Days you cannot talk, family is there, days you cannot stop talking, family are there. Every member of your family will be leading a different day to day life, have a different priority list on day to day basis but ultimately, the beauty is when needed you will come back together as ONE.

If you are as lucky as me to have a family which make every morning a worthy day to wake up, to live, then take a minute, look at the memories, the moments you have shared, the tears you have cried together over happiness, over sadness and just take a minute to appreciate those certain people you are thinking about. They are your ‘fans,’ they are your top supporters and they love you more than any other human will ever. Don’t take family for granted, kiss goodnight, hug good morning, text regularly, keep in touch on the quiet days and support on good and bad days. Allow yourself to say I love you and allow yourself to feel loved. You and your family are ONE.

Rock being ONE, rock being a team and rock the love you share, its my definition of beauty.

Time Out

Mind rushing, thoughts processing, heart rate racing, irrational thoughts slowing rising, bursting emotions happening. Sometimes our minds are just TOO busy, it happens to all of us. When this happens sometimes it can feel there is no escape, there is no ‘time out.’

10 things I attend to do just to have ‘time out’ on those not so quiet days/weeks just to feel numb for a second, to escape for a minute or to purely focus on me for a slight moment:

1. Read a book (no1 every time)

2. Write a blog (even if there is nothing positive to write about)

3. Listen to music (sad or happy but music YOU enjoy)

4. Eat food (comforting as most of us know)

5. Take a shower or bath (use your favourite shower gel, shampoo and conditioner, self indulge)

6. Take a walk (not always my first choice if I am 100% honest BUT it never fails to help a down day)

7. Have a nap (always a good one)

8. Colouring (so many books you can get now for de-stressing give it a go)

9. Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a while (someone who will make you smile)

10. Work (sometimes work seems like the last place we would like to be BUT it can be a great mind distraction and ‘time out’)

Human Masks

Most of us have the capability to put on a mask to hide the behind scene, sometimes we praise ourselves for this, however, should we not be wanting to share our real selves? I don’t necessarily mean share our stories, share our experiences, share our life’s with people we are not associated or who we simply don’t want to BUT I do mean share our emotions, share our day to day feelings whether that means happy, sad, excited, angry, proud or loving. Mental health has increased so much over the previous years and I believe mine partially happened due to having my pretence mask on and the pressure the mask had behind it.

Why don’t you try even just for 24 hours to show your real emotions, to show your real face, no mask, no over layer of emotions and just purely be you. You are an amazing beautiful human even if you aren’t happy every moment, let’s release the pressure of mental health and try and be open with one another. It is ok to not be ok and it is ok to be more than ok. You be YOU.

Shining

Hey guys, I haven’t blogged in the last couple of days and I can’t today (fully.) I am having a day of pure happiness and I don’t want to waste a second of it, I am choosing to not write fully today as I am reunited with a special person in my life, I am choosing to eat ice cream, laugh my way down the road singing songs loudly instead. The message I want to get across in a short sentence is that it is important to choose ourselves and our mental health over anything else as remember, we only have ourselves ultimately. Surround yourself with positive people and positive vibes and your life will automatically become a better experience.

P. S anyone who is having a low day or gets them (as I do) that’s ok, it’ll be your turn to have a happy day tomorrow maybe, hang on in there, keep on going and remember, you do YOU. Self care is important for each individual, we all require a dose of self love so be kind and give it to yourself.

Body

I have learnt over the last few months to be grateful towards my body, to thank my body in ways I can because ultimately without my body functioning I wouldn’t be able to do all the amazing things I can. Since being a teen I have lived with a poor diet not really taking much consideration on the consequences that it could lead to. Since concentrating on my mental health and getting to a place I am happy with I now realise I have to do the same for my body. I have to give it 100%, feed it kind food (naughty sometimes of course,) be kind to it, be grateful towards it and love it. (Read bodyposipanda- a m a z i n g) What we put into our bodies is what we will get out of them.

I believe it is important for us to acknowledge our body is the one thing that keeps us functioning, let’s you walk the grounds you walk on, let’s you drink and eat the food and drink you love the most, let’s you take those naps that you almost certainly desire and let’s you function everyday carrying out the exciting plans you make. I believe We don’t give our bodies enough credit (I certainly haven’t been.)

No matter what skin colour your body is, what weight/shape your body is, what condition your body is in, YOUR body is allowing you to live in this wonderful life so treat it with just as much importance as your mind, it’s all connected. (If you don’t treat your mind with importance then please do, life becomes so much better when you put your health first.) You be kind to you and your body/mind will be kind back.

Happy

Does ‘happy’ necessarily have to mean you have a full beaming smile on your face? Does ‘happy’ mean you aren’t allowed to feel another emotion apart from one? Does it necessarily mean we will wake up the next morning ‘happy?’

NO. Happy has a different meaning for each person and each persons reasons for being happy are different (the same with all emotions.) However, I think it is important even if you only feel five minutes of happiness per day or only some days out of the week/month that we appreciate these moments, that we take them in, love them and endure them, not take them for granted. There is no need to be disheartened if one happy moment only last seconds or minutes or even months because that’s ok, they’ll always be another one.

We aren’t programmed to be happy 24/7, it is ok to feel ‘ok’ or ‘meh’ on particular days. For me, once I let the pressure gate down having to act happy all the time and not allowing myself to feel other emotions in front of others it got a whole lot easier. I now feel however my body feels everyday and the moments I feel happy I endure, the moments I feel sad I also take in and pick myself back up again with a bit of self care.

Choose options that’ll make your day better, make decisions based on things you know will have a positive effect and don’t compare your version of happiness to others, rock your own. Every single one of us deserves happiness but more of it will come around if you accept YOU, care for YOU and live your own life for YOU.